My Sinful Valentine
By Elizabeth Scarlett
It’s been awhile since I’ve written my column, and there are many reasons why. So, I could write about all the issues I’ve had to deal with in the last year; the chronic pain, heavy painkillers, subsequent withdrawals, separation, divorce, etc. However, I’d rather focus on the positives in my life, for truly, I am blessed. So, I’m going to write a Valentine to the man I’m in love with:
My Love, My Partner, My Sin…
You have brought the pieces of my heart together and welded them with steel…taken me from the agony and loneliness that plagued my soul, and lit a warm, constant fire within me. You’ve held my hands and my body, while I’ve suffered through pain and misery; wrapped me tightly in your arms when I shook, and cooled the fever from my brow when it burned. Though I tried to warn you of the frightening mess that was my life, you refused to be scared; took on the challenge with open eyes and enveloping heart, and remain committed to that incredible journey you’ve brought me so far along on already. Through your own trials and battles, you continue to fight for me; when I fear I’ve lost my tenuous grip, you take my slipping hand and hold it tight. You help me stand, and lead the way; forgive me when I stumble, and kiss my wounded pride. When you call me “Babydoll” and “Darlin’”, “Sweetheart” and “Love”, you make me smile and giggle like a little girl that you sit on your lap. Your constant reassurances and words of love echo in my mind, at war with the self doubt and fear that linger there. You bind my hands and body, allowing me to relinquish the control I hold on to so tightly; freed me from the heavy chains I carry, and replaced them with a collar of your love and dominance. You drive me to such heights of pleasure, I can’t help but scream in ecstasy; and the pain you inflict, brings me joy in submission. I’ve found my home, at last; my mentor, my confidant, my lover, my friend. You truly share the desires of my heart, have similar goals and beliefs – including Polyamory – and are more available for me to love than any other partner I’ve had in my life. I will be worthy of your love as you are so very, very worthy of mine. You’ve healed my heart, it belongs to you, as does my body and soul. Do with me what you will, as you please, however you desire; for the pleasure will be mine…my SINful Valentine.
Kisses,
Ms. Scarlett
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Dear Ms. Scarlett,
Last year for Valentine’s Day, my husband gave me a threesome with his lifelong best friend. This is not usual for us, a complete surprise; and we had a fabulous night! Since then, I’ve wanted his friend to be my boyfriend; his friend desires this, too. However, my husband and his friend are very much alike in many ways, including that both are fairly possessive. I don’t know if my husband will ever be open to the idea of us being polyamorous, and sharing me with his friend in this way. And his friend is already struggling with how he will deal with sharing me with my husband, should my husband agree. My husband definitely comes first and I would never risk our marriage. But, it’d be so great to have them both…
– Bittersweet Valentine
Dear Bittersweet,
There seems to be plenty of potential here; both for disaster and for success. Given that both of these men are disinclined to want to share you, a wiser man might tell you to nip it in the bud. However, as a woman who has risked it all for love many times before, I can certainly sympathize with your desire to attempt to have both of them in your life! The key, as always, is communication. You seem to have that down with your friend, since you know what he desires; though you should make it very clear to him, as you did to me, that your husband comes first. Now, let’s work on communication between your friend and your husband, and you and your husband. Did you discuss the threesome after it happened? Have you told him how much you enjoyed it and how grateful you were for his gift? Does he seem open to it happening again? Admit that you’ve entertained fantasies about dating his friend, and ask him how he feels about that. If he was willing to share you in bed already, he may be more open to what you desire than you think…especially if you make it clear that not only will he always be your primary partner but that you’d be equally supportive of him pursuing a secondary partner of his own. If nothing else, arrange to “surprise” him with a similar threesome this Valentine’s Day…with a sexy friend of your own you suspect he may have been crushing on. Good luck and I hope you have a very lovely Valentine’s Day!
Kisses,
Ms. Scarlett